It’s true that being overly available can seem desperate or unattractive, but the last thing you want to do is play dating games.
If you’re suffering from no-life syndrome, step back and ask yourself why you aren’t having fun on your own. Play the sport you like or pursue one of your interests. Insecure people push for serious relationships for the security it brings, and people can sense that.
To make yourself a better partner, think about your past relationships.
When you’re finished with Part 1, you can read Part 2 here. That’s what it’s called when someone you’re dating or in a relationship with disappears on you. 2013: I recently had a boyfriend of two months totally, utterly and completely disappear on me. He called me every day, took me out a few times a week and always had a lot of energy and affection for me. I won’t bore you with the details but, long story short, out of no where, he disappeared on me. The next, I couldn’t get in touch with him for love or money. Besides, there was no excuse for his decision to end things via radio silence. Fear and pessimism was NOT the vibe I wanted to bring to the table. One click led to another click led to another click and I found myself at a website called Dating With Dignity. And I was somewhat of an ‘expert’ myself, having written an (albeit humorous) advice book on dating and relationships, inspired by lessons I’d learned over the years. But there’s nothing I love more than being pleasantly surprised…
Despite my extensive dating history, this had never happened to me before. So common, in fact, there’s a whole chapter dedicated to it in by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. Sure, it wasn’t perfect, and we had a long way to go to get to know each other, build a little history and make some memories. A warm and friendly woman named Marni Battista was offering a FREE three-part video series, which included some of her best dating advice. The three free Dating with Dignity videos are jam-packed with great tips, but here are the top two revelations that I, personally, took away: 1.
Anyway, MDM (Mr Disappearing Man) and I had something really good going – or so I thought. We were the same age and from a similar background, had loads in common, got along famously, had great chemistry and seemed to want the same things in life. While, naturally, we didn’t always see eye-to-eye, we never had one argument. I have my theories as to why he vanished so fast it made my head spin (in more ways than one), but this isn’t about him. How am I ever going to feel happy and safe in a relationship when the guy could shock me to my core at any minute?
How not to let ‘ghosting’ turn into ‘trust issues’ Once I came to terms with the fact that I might never see or hear from him ever again (which I was disappointed but not devastated by), I was faced with a new dilemma: How the hell am I supposed to get back out there when, apparently, dating someone for two months and having everything going for you as a couple means absolutely nothing – not even a friendship or, at the very least, a goodbye?