All three live there together, but they aren’t roommates—they’re lovers. Sarah is 46 and has an Earth Motherly demeanor that put me at relative ease. Michael is 65, and he has a chinstrap beard that makes him look like he just walked off an Amish homestead.
When I met Jonica Hunter, Sarah Taub, and Michael Rios on a typical weekday afternoon in their tidy duplex in Northern Virginia, a very small part of me worried they might try to convert me. And so are Sarah and whomever she happens to bring home some weekends. Jonica is 27, with close-cropped hair, a pointed chin, and a quiet air.
Many American and European women consider their career the top priority in life.
They want to climb the career ladder and realize themselves in their jobs. Their views are often incompatible with the views of Western men who still want to have traditional families where a man is a head of the family and a woman is a loving partner and caring mother.
Together, they form a polyamorous “triad”— one of the many formations that’s possible in this jellyfish of a sexual preference.
“There’s no one way to do polyamory” is a common refrain in “the community.” Polyamory—which literally means “many loves”—can involve any number of people, either cohabiting or not, sometimes all having sex with each other, and sometimes just in couples within the larger group.